Another area of preparation which you will do well to look into, is in the area of clear goals and pure motive. Do not go into relationship with a selfish motive. If your motive is selfish, God will not back you up. Don’t go into a relationship because you want to be loved. Your motive must be clear, pure and godly. You must also desire a person whose life and character will enhance your spiritual growth. If you go for someone whom you have to teach the elementary principles of the scriptures, that person may end up pulling you down.
“I remember the story of a sister who wanted to marry someone whose spiritual life was below expectation. I told her that I would like to see her prospective husband. At least I wanted to pray with both of them. When the sister invited the man, the man became furious and refused to come. He told the sister, “I don’t understand what you are saying. I don’t have any business with any pastor. All I want is to get married to you.” The sister tried her best to persuade the man but he refused. The sister narrated her experience to me and I started to wonder why the man bluntly refused to come and see me.
I asked the sister, “Are you sure that this man is a child of God. Why is he against prayer?” The sister said, “I believe that he is born again. He actually told me that he has been a Christian for twelve years.” I told her that I would still go ahead to pray and check things up with the Lord. When I prayed, I was baffled by what I saw. I saw a very tall sister dragging a baby in three piece suit to the altar. Then, it dawned on me that they were going to have problems with their marriage. I told her what I saw. But she assured me that she was sure of what she was doing and that she has prayed about the man.
They eventually married and the sister discovered that she had walked into a dangerous relationship. As soon as they settled down to enjoy the new marriage, the man began to behave in a funny manner. He started by shouting at her. Then he began to give her occasional slaps. Before she knew what was happening, he began to threaten her with a gun. That was how the woman continued to live in fear day in, day out. Things became so bad one day that a Christian brother had to rush in to their house to prevent the man from shooting the sister. The man actually fired the gun, but it narrowly missed the ear of the brother who went to separate them.
The peace-maker brother ran to me gasping for breath. He said, “Is that how people die? Pastor, I almost lost my life today. I went to the house of brother and sister so and so. The husband fired a shot which almost blew up my head. I have never seen that kind of thing before.” Later, the wife ran to me to narrate her ordeal. That was how it became clear to her that she had actually taken a wrong step. She had no option but to carry a cross which God never meant for her. I had to give her some prayer points and anointing oil so that she can experience some measure of peace in her home. I warned her but she thought she knew what she was doing. Her decision to marry somebody who was of a lower spiritual status bounced back at her.”
shalom!
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