A lot of people today have made great mistakes in the area of marriage. Some of these people have got to the point of no return. They can no longer amend what had gone wrong. However, all those who are yet to take the all important journey into marriage are very fortunate. They have the opportunity of looking before taking a plunge into marriage.
Bachelors and spinsters are very fortunate. They have the opportunity of examining all cards that are laid on the table before taking this important step that will determine their success or failure in life.
A good marriage will expose you to a sort of heaven on earth while a bad one will expose you to hell on earth.
The most important factor in achieving a successful marriage is the choice you make. If you make a good choice, then you are sure that you have started on the right note. But a bad choice leaves you with a faulty foundation which will work against your marriage sooner or later.
A lot of people who are married today have discovered that the great mistakes of their lives can be traced to the choice which they made. Therefore, you must put a lot of factors into consideration if you want to enjoy your marriage.
Most of the married people around us today are still staying together because they are ashamed of the consequences of separation. They know of course that the marriage has collapsed completely. They are only staying together because they do not want anyone to feel that all the money, time and effort which went into the marriage are wasted. They are probably afraid of what neighbours and friends would say. That is why they are still staying under the same roof.
To make a mistake in marriage is worse than living in hell. Unfortunately, many are in this situation.
A brother felt that he had prayed and took a sister to his pastor as his choice in marriage. The pastor asked to know whether the brother was really sure of what he was saying. He answered in the affirmative, and then got married after a few months. One month later, the brother ran back to the pastor saying, “Pastor, please can you grant me a divorce? I am tired of the woman whom you gave to me in marriage.” The pastor said, “I can’t understand what you are saying, divorce? That’s impossible. Don’t you know that once you are married, you are married forever? There is nothing like divorce and re-marriage. If you divorce your wife, you are playing with hell fire.”
The brother said, “Oh is that a problem? Going to hell fire? That’s not a problem. I am already living in hell in my home. I don’t think there is any hell greater than what I am passing through. The woman which I am married to is worse than the devil. I prefer to divorce the woman and go to hell. I prefer to live with the devil instead of living with that woman. Allow me to get rid of the hell which my home has become. I think I would be able to cope with hell fire later,” the man said.
The pastor made him to know that the decision to marry that woman was actually his own and that he should be ready to face the consequences of the decision which he took. That is what it means to face the consequences of one’s decision.
People should prayerfully take time to make a choice which they will never live to regret.
My next write up will be THOROUGH PREPARATION IN MARRIAGE.
shalom!
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